Rudyard Kipling - a view of equanimity

Rudyard Kipling (1865 – 1936)
first published in 1895

IF

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

"It is thought that has emotional complications, not love." Krishnamurti

The process of thought ever denies love. It is thought that has emotional complications, not love. Thought is the greatest hindrance to love. Thought creates a division between what is and what should be, and on this division morality is based; but neither the moral nor the immoral know love. This moral structure, created by the mind to hold social relationships together, is not love, but a hardening process like that of cement. Thought does not lead to love, thought does not cultivate love, for love cannot be cultivated as a plant in the garden. The very desire to cultivate love is the action of thought. – Krishnamurti, Commentaries on Living, Series I”,16,Choiceless Awareness

Renunciation and Letting Go

Renunciation, the third of the ten perfections – our inherent good heart qualities.

Many of us have been conditioned to see renunciation as a kind of penance or deprivation or punishment; maybe a way of ‘paying for our sins.’ But, here, although challenging and certainly requiring courage, the teachings speak of renunciation as freedom from or letting go of anything that binds us to stories of suffering we create for ourselves.

The most common and insistent ways we make ourselves unhappy is through our grasping and greediness toward things outside ourselves; things we believe will make us feel happy, safe, and secure. We want things that stay the same and are unchanging. However, despite our best efforts, we can plainly see that everything is really impermanent and always changing.  When we can deeply accept that reality and apply it to our own attachments and desires, the letting go or renunciation of those things happens naturally. We move toward more freedom from suffering.

Equanimity - Pema Chodron

"The traditional image for equanimity is a banquet to which everyone is invited.

That means that everyone and everything, without exception, is on the guest list. Consider your worst enemy. Consider someone who would do you harm. Imagine inviting them to this feast.

Training in equanimity is learning to open the door to all, welcoming all beings, inviting life to come visit. Of course, as certain guests arrive, we’ll feel fear and aversion. We allow ourselves to open the door just a crack if that’s all that we can presently do, and we allow ourselves to shut the door when necessary. Cultivating equanimity is a work in progress. We aspire to spend our lives training in the loving-kindness and courage that it takes to receive whatever appears—sickness, health, poverty, wealth, sorrow, and joy. We welcome and get to know them all." - Pema Chodron